Meet Dr. Oluwatofunmi Oni

Relationship centered, identity empowering virtual therapy for individuals and couples navigating personal, relational, and cultural challenges in MD, DC, VA, OH and PSYPACT States

A Space to Reconnect—with Yourself and Others

I'm a licensed psychologist who works with individuals and couples navigating the complexities of identity, relationships, and cultural expectations. Many of my clients come to therapy having followed the path they were told would lead to fulfillment—meeting family, societal, or professional expectations—only to find themselves feeling disconnected from who they really are.

Sometimes that disconnection shows up as anxiety. Other times, it emerges in relationships that feel both deeply important and painfully out of sync. You may be trying to balance your needs with your desire to stay connected—to your partner, your family, friends, or to a culture or traditions that have shaped you. This can be especially hard when the connections you long for have also been marked by hurt, silence, or unmet needs.

My work is rooted in the belief that healing happens in relationship. I draw from Relational-Cultural Therapy, ACT, and culturally attuned approaches to create a space where you can show up fully—without having to leave parts of yourself behind. Whether we’re exploring long-standing patterns, making space for grief, or finding language for a version of you that’s just now beginning to emerge, our work is collaborative and grounded in trust.

For couples, I offer a warm and structured space to help both partners move beyond communication techniques and into deeper mutual understanding—especially when cultural values, identity, and relational trauma are part of the dynamic.

Therapy with me isn’t about quick fixes or surface solutions. It’s about slowing down enough to listen—to your body, your values, your stories—and gently, intentionally move toward clarity and self-trust. You don’t have to navigate that tension alone.

therapy Approach

Therapy with me is grounded, collaborative, and deeply relational. I don’t believe in one-size-fits-all strategies or quick fixes. Instead, I tailor our work to honor your lived experience, your values, and the pace your healing requires. My style blends evidence-based techniques with culturally responsive care so that you don’t have to leave parts of yourself behind to get support.

I draw from Relational-Cultural Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and trauma-informed approaches to help you move through emotional stuck points and reconnect with your sense of self. Whether you’re navigating anxiety, relationship stress, cultural tension, or identity shifts, we’ll explore how old patterns are showing up—and create space for something more aligned to emerge.

We might work on:

  • Understanding the root of your inner critic or self-doubt

  • Processing cultural, relational, or generational trauma

  • Untangling guilt or people-pleasing tied to family or identity

  • Making room for grief or transitions

  • Building a deeper, more compassionate relationship with yourself

For Individuals

You may be high-functioning on the outside but emotionally exhausted underneath. You’ve done what was expected of you—professionally, relationally, or culturally—and now find yourself wondering if those expectations ever really fit. I support individuals who feel pulled between honoring their needs and maintaining relationships, especially when those relationships are layered with love, loyalty, and unspoken pain.

In our work together, you'll learn to hold space for your full self—messy emotions, evolving values, and all—and make decisions that reflect clarity rather than obligation.

For Couples

Couples sessions are structured, respectful spaces for real dialogue—not just surface-level communication tips. I draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method tools to guide you in identifying patterns, increasing emotional safety, and building stronger connection.

But tools alone aren’t enough. I also help you move beyond conflict cycles by gently uncovering the deeper emotions and unmet needs beneath your reactions. This emotional processing creates the foundation for more empathy, intimacy, and mutual understanding.

Whether you're navigating cultural or family dynamics, rebuilding after trust has been broken, or simply feeling out of sync, our work will support both partners in reconnecting—not just with each other, but with their own clarity and voice.

If you’re ready to do the kind of work that brings you back to yourself—and strengthens the relationships that matter most—I’d be honored to walk alongside you. Let’s begin this process together.

Credentials

Licensed Clinical Psychologist Maryland, #06752

Authority to Practice Interjurisdictional Telepsychology (APIT), PSYPACT #13709
Doctor of Psychology in Clinical Psychology, Loyola University Maryland

Doctoral Dissertation: Second Generation Nigerian Immigrants Pathway to Mental Health Services: A Qualitative Exploration

Doctoral Internship in Health Psychology, Virginia Commonwealth University

Masters of Science in Clinical Psychology, Loyola University Maryland

Bachelor of Science in Psychology, Rutgers University

Trauma Informed Care Certified

Ready to work together? Click the button below to schedule a consultation with me. We’ll discuss your goals, make sure we’re a good fit, then we’ll start the work to achieve your goals.

There’s no commitment, pressure, or obligation.